No one ever anticipates divorce when they get married and when it happens, it can throw those involved into a whirlwind of emotions, reactions, logistics and the like. It’s an experience that can most certainly test people’s limits and for even the most composed, level headed divorcees – it can be hard to keep calm.
Today, we’re going to talk about some of the common mistakes that men make in the process and how to best avoid those pitfalls. The important thing to remember in any divorce is this: both you and your soon-to-be-ex have a common goal: a separation that causes as few headaches as possible. Hiring an attorney and/or a mediator will be the best way to avoid genuine struggle. However, if you avoid these three things, you’ll be in a much better place by the end of the proceedings. Let’s jump right in.
Hiding finances
Hiding finances is one of the most common mistakes and 100% the most costly. Our advice? Don’t even bother. For starters, it’s a crime. Each state has different ways of dealing with this but you can end up on the lighter end getting fined into oblivion and on the worst end – spending time in jail. That and to be honest – you can run but you can’t hide. Courts WILL find out what your financial picture looks like.
And don’t think that if you got away with it in the past that things are done. If a judge does find out, they’ll have a hearing and they’ll reallocate the settlements. Trust your lawyer to protect your interests through legal means. Don’t cheat.
Resisting compromise
Divorce by its very nature is messy. Expect that things will not go 100% your way. In fact, it’s almost impossible for that to occur. Know what’s important to you and what isn’t, because if everything is important to you, then in divorce – nothing actually IS important. It’s a give and take process and know that both you and your partner will have to experience a little pain to make progress.
Also- this will just help take the edge off the process and make the proceedings that much more amicable and certainly less miserable.
Involving new partners
One of the most common reasons for people to get divorced is infidelity. If you’ve found a new love in your life, then good for you. But don’t parade it through negotiations and most certainly DO NOT involve them. Yes, they care about you – but at the end of the day, divorces are complex and emotionally charged enough already without adding a third person to the proceedings. It’s a sure fire way to inflate emotions and create conflict. Don’t involve your new partner.
We hope you found today’s blog helpful. If you’re looking for a Tampa Divorce Mediation service, then give our office a call today and we’ll be happy to provide you with a free consultation. Until then, good luck!
