Often here we give a lot of legal and mediation advice because, well – that’s what we do. But the truth of the matter is that at the end of the day – divorce is an immensely emotional experience that can leave lasting effects on a number of people in and around your life – but especially for the individuals going through the separation themselves.
Sometimes the initial shock and coming to grips with what’s happening is the most difficult thing and today, we’re going to take a step back and talk about some of the things you can do to help deal with Square One – the initial shock when you realize that you are going to be getting a divorce.
It’s ok to grieve over what is lost
Memories matter. Period. They are what make so many of us, ourselves. Don’t erase them, but try your best to accept them. One day, you’re going to feel better; but it’s hard to get to that point if you don’t manage and deal with those emotions in the moment. Let yourself be upset. Talk to and lean on the people around you. Grieve. Grief is an essential ingredient towards letting go.
One of the best things you can do to blow off steam and keep your emotional state in check is to blow off actual, physical steam by working out. The best anti-stress pill out there is getting physical and working out. Join a team, join a league, or join some sort of fitness club like a martial arts school or a Cross Fit. Sports naturally trigger chemicals in our brains that make us feel happier. Get physical and active. It’ll pay off!
Focus on yourself a little bit
There’s a lot you’re going to have to sort through in the coming months, so be sure to take time for yourself for whatever it is. Whether it’s grieving, getting organized, perhaps shopping for a new place to live – whatever it is – let it breathe and let yourself breathe by taking the time you need to get your life in order.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You don’t have to answer questions you don’t feel like answering. Find people who support you and care about you and lean on them. These are the people who already love you, accept you for who you are and won’t judge you with regards to anything. You’re not guilty, here and blaming yourself is useless.
And if that’s not doing the trick – get professional help – that’s why it’s there. Sometimes the reasons we are facing struggles in life are rooted in things we might not have realized or fully dealt with and therapy can be a great way to help bring that into a clearer focus so you can better manage yourself, your day-to-day and whatever else is coming next.
Hopefully you found today’s blog helpful. If you find yourself in need of guidance or Tampa Divorce mediation, give us a call today and we’ll be happy to provide you with a free consultation. Until then – good luck!