People are often surprised to hear that there’s many ways you can get divorced and one of the more increasingly popular methods is divorce mediation. Instead of a lengthy court battle filled with angry exes and warring attorneys – mediation is conducted by a trained and impartial mediator who helps couples develop an agreement that resolves any existing issues.
A mediator isn’t a lawyer exactly – and isn’t a judge either. They’re not here to force things that either of the spouses don’t want. Instead, they negotiate for what each wants and works back from there and truth be told – this can be much more effective. Mediation isn’t a ‘take it or leave it’ proposition.
Today, we’re going to talk about a few of the reasons people choose this route and why it can be beneficial to you. Let’s jump right in!
It costs a lot less than going to court.
The old saying goes ‘war is expensive.’ Not only do you have the emotional costs of a sometimes traumatizing separation for you and your loved ones – but attorneys aren’t cheap and neither are court fees. Mediation operates without the need to hire an attorney and while it will cost you some money – it’s substantially less than getting divorced through court.
Less collateral damage
Like we mentioned above – divorce can be costly in both financial and emotional terms. Many fail to understand that in many marriages – particularly more lengthy ones – you and your spouse aren’t the only ones impacted. Not only are you separating your immediate family and children, but your extended one as well. While it court – it’s all about winning, in mediation – it’s about everyone winning through compromise. This lessens the animosity between parties and subsequently – minimizes the damage as well.
More control over the outcome
When you go to court – it’s the judge making the decision. That means you (and your ex) won’t have much in the way of control of the outcome. And usually in court cases – there’s more shared pain than individual benefit. Mediation allows you and your spouse to put something together that benefits the both of you and keeps the surrounding impact to a minimum. A true agreement that works for both of you.
We hope you found today’s blog helpful. If you would like to learn more about our Divorce Mediation services – feel free to contact us today. Until then – good luck!