Divorce is one of the most mentally destabilizing processes you can go through in life. It’s rarely easy and it digs at so many personal things – from your emotional well being to nuts and bolts, extremely personal matters in your private life. Needless to say, learning to cope with all this change and vulnerability is challenging – and everyone manages things in their own way.
Today, we’re going to share some tips with you on some things you can do in your own life to help take that edge off the proceedings. Divorce is hard and nothing anyone can do will change that. But settling into these habits can make it a whole lot easier.
Go easy on yourself
Anxiety, confusion, fear – these are just a few of the emotions you’ll be dealing with. But it’s important to remember there is no such thing as having ‘the right emotions’ or reacting to things ‘the right way.’ Part of the mentally challenging aspect of divorce is that it’s an intensely personal experience for many.
Give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself. Go out for drinks. Take a day off. Go on a long weekend. Not only will this give you time to take a break – but also take a load off your shoulders and get used to just being alive again.
Surround yourself with positive people
We are all products of our own environments in many ways. Divorce is difficult enough to deal with when things are amicable – but they can also get pretty nasty. Studies show though – that parents who expose their kids to constant conflict will increase their risk of psychological issues down the road. It also dramatically increases the likelihood of you adding stress and anxiety to the process yourself.
Put yourself around good people that will give you (and your loved ones) the emotional support you need. Who’ll talk? Who’ll listen. Who, frankly – will also distract you and help you learn to have fun and be happy again. Not only will this make the process of transitioning to your new life easier – but it’ll do a whole lot of good for those who are caught up in the wake of your divorce as well.
Stick to your routine
This one’s hard – but it’s necessary. Get your coffee in the morning. Go to work. Involve yourself in a project. Do the things you usually like to do on the weekends. Do not isolate yourself and allow negative emotions to throw everything else off in your life. Maintain your hobbies. Find those things that make you happy and keep doing them. This will not only help maintain a semblance of normalcy – but it will also help in your transition to your post-divorce life.
Hopefully you found today’s blog helpful. If you’re experiencing a divorce and are considering Divorce Mediation in the St Petersburg area, give us a call today and we’ll be happy to help. Until then – good luck!