If you’ve ever read some of those wild tabloids in the racks in the supermarket you probably know that you can get married pretty quickly. Unfortunately, it’s not so easy to get divorced quickly.
However – there are things you can do to expedite the process and move things at something resembling more of a brisk pace and that’s what we’re going to discuss today. Here are some of the things you can do to speed things along and get through your divorce as quickly (and cleanly) as possible). Let’s jump right in!
The #1 thing anyone can do to expedite their divorce is to simply cooperate with their soon-to-be-ex. We understand that this isn’t always possible for some as some divorces are messy, emotionally driven affairs. But for those that aren’t, make sure you’re still willing to play ball.
Think about things this way – you both want the same thing: to get divorced and move on. You already share the same goal. Take care of the easy and simple stuff and divvy up possessions that are obvious. Sometimes it can be a little bit like haggling where getting a deal or two done can help make bigger deals easier.
Use divorce mediation. You could even help draw up your own separation agreements as people have done that in the past. There are many ways you can divorce and not all of them need to be with expensive attorneys in some sort of combative court-laden environment. Many couples elect for what we call ‘uncontested divorces’ or ‘simplified dissolution of marriage’ proceedings where they draw up agreements before hand – settle the major issues and file with the court. And the courts will sometimes expedite the process.
Don’t waste time
Once you make the final decision no foot dragging on anyone’s part is going to change the end result. Decide on a plan, communicate and execute it. Many couples end up dragging things out by playing games over innocuous things and end up creating unnecessary fires that consume the proceedings and slow the process down – prolonging their own misery. Get to it. Hire a mediator. Begin communicating.
Understand divorce laws as much as you can
The old saying is ‘knowledge is power’ and as is the case with anything, understanding what you’re about to enter into is crucial. Ask questions, do your reading and set realistic expectations for what can, will, should and will likely happen. We all wish divorces would end quickly – but it can take a while and there’s a myriad of administrative hurdles you may have to deal with – particularly in certain states. Get to know the process, be curious and act accordingly.
No one wants to be stuck in divorce proceedings longer than they have to be. If you’re interested in exploring mediation as a possible pathway forward, give our team a call today and we’ll be happy to speak with you. Until then – good luck!