What makes for a more peaceful divorce?

Topic: Divorce
Feb 28, 2021

Divorce is one of the most difficult things that a person may experience in life – especially when the former couple are struggling with emotions, children and important possessions. While there’s never anything that’s particularly easy about a divorce, there are some things people can do that will help take a decent portion of the edge off; things that can help make things run smoother both financially and emotionally, leading to a better physical outcome. 

So what are some of the things you can do to make your divorce more orderly? Well, that’s what we’re here to discuss today. Here are a few tips on how you can make your divorce easier on both you and those around you. 

Is divorce really the best option?

The thing everyone needs to carefully think through before they get a divorce is whether or not this is truly the right decision. Divorce is final. It’s a permanent course of action that you’ll have to decide for yourself is the best course of action for you and your life heading forward. 

Ask yourself if this is your decision, truly. Or is it friends and family pushing you towards a split? Are there more underlying issues there that simply need to be resolved? Could the potential source of your struggles be stemming from something that’s simply temporary? 

What we’re saying is – take your time – lots of time, in fact – to make this kind of a decision. There’s no going back once it’s done. And that’s not just from a ‘regrets’ standpoint. It ensures that if you do make this choice – that you’re doing so sure of yourself and with a clear direction and intent heading forward. And that clarity will help ensure proceedings go as smoothly as possible. 

Always maintain mutual respect

This is a challenge, particularly if your split was acrimonious. If there’s been infidelity, addiction or something worse involved – your feelings may be that you want to do everything you can to hurt and get even with your soon-to-be-ex. But there’s an old saying: ‘enemies are expensive.’ And full throated combat will mean more emotional stress, more financial burden, physical strain and the potential for significantly more collateral damage to those you love. 

Try to enter into things with a mutual respect and at the very least – a shared desire to remain civil throughout. This will help eliminate a number of natural stressors involved in the process. 

Share a common goal or vision

One of the more beneficial things you can do during a divorce is that while you may not share feelings for your ex; or even a desire to be amicable; you may find that you share a common vision. For example – you both want to put your kids first, so you work together to achieve as desirable a result for your family as possible. Common goals and shared visions can be a powerful force and even the most emotional situations can be set aside if you both work towards a common interest. 

Choose the right process

Not all divorces are the same. Not only is every situation different, but there are different ways that you can go about getting divorced. Perhaps it’s through simple mediation or collaboration. Sometimes it’s also open legal combat. But whatever it is, be sure that you weigh the costs and benefits associated with each method and pick the best that works for both of you. Each of these processes are designed to help you through the process in a way that can work for you both and achieve the desired outcome, so make sure you do your research. 

Have you considered all your options when it comes to getting a divorce? If you’d like more information on how you can run a smoother, easier transition – give us a call today and we’ll be happy to sit down and talk. In the meantime, be well and good luck!