Divorces are never easy. But let us reassure you, once it’s over – it’s mostly over. At least a lot of the rough stuff. There’s lots of people who will tell you what to do and how to do it; and lots of ‘life after a tough marriage’ can be intimidating. But it can also be a great opportunity.
For many, getting divorced is like getting a new lease on life. Hit the reset button, if you will. While everyone’s situation is different, we’d like to recommend a few things that it’s probably worth it to do that will get you off to the best possible start. Let’s jump right in!
Take stock of what you have, not what you’ve lost
Divorce for many is less an experience and more of a lesson. And you learn a lot about yourself, the people around you and what you have. If you have issues, see a counselor. The benefits of therapy can be enormous. Surround yourself with loved ones. Have fun with them. Separate yourself from the negativity. If you can afford it – go on vacation. Work on you. Get that energy back that you had by leaning on those who matter the most to you.
Make a financial plan
One of the tougher aspects of separation is that you’ll likely be living a new life financially. Especially if you were not the person dealing with finances in your marriage, sit down with a financial planner and get a strategy for how to manage things heading forward. Most people are often surprised at how getting on a solid budget and having a plan can put them in a significantly better spot than they anticipated being in.
Don’t go careening into a new relationship too quickly
Everyone’s heard about rebounds – and truth be told (and especially if you’re really young) getting divorced should never mean you’re alone forever. But give it some time. It’s normal to feel loneliness, but don’t confuse loneliness and boredom with needing to fill that void with another person. New relationships are always exciting, but once that wears off you might be left with the same emotions that led you to divorce to begin with. Get your house in order- take advantage of the opportunity to get YOU going again. And then look.
Hopefully you found today’s blog helpful. If you have any questions about divorce mediation and how the process works, feel free to give our offices a call today. Until then, good luck!